Sunday, 22 May 2016

Love With or Without Strings….


String Theory of Physics assumes that the multiverse works in 11 dimensions. Normally our brains are used to the 3 spatial dimensions and the 4th dimension of time. What happens in the other 7 dimensions? Will our brains ever be able to perceive those other dimensions? Or do they only work in other universes? Are these the dimensions where the spirits, angels, and Gods reside, and watch us from? Maybe in a few hundred years or more likely a few thousand years from now, our scientists might have some of these answers. For the present though, I can explain the 11 dimensions in only one rational way I could. The Love Strings Theory. Love is the strongest of all forms of energy. Some might disagree and say gravity is the strongest. If it were so, then we would say “falling in gravity” more often than “falling in love”! On a serious note, the energy of love indeed has tremendous power, and it is my hypothesis therefore that love has managed to extend itself, leap from the boundaries of the 4 dimensional physical world, and creep into the other 7 dimensions already. After all, who can resist the force of love.

Whether the String Theory works or not, we know that the 11 “dimensions” of love on this mortal Earth works quite well. Let me help you now dissect each of these 11 “dimensions” of love (and love that we associate between lovers), with strings or no strings attached.

1.       1. Soul Mate Love: This is the dream dimension of love for every couple. As mentioned in one of my earlier blogs too, there is a strong possibility that souls move in groups from lifetime to another. There must be unimaginable love between the souls in each group to be able to tolerate each other for countless lifetimes. For sure not all of the souls in the group will be “lovers” in the traditional sense in every lifetime. They might be around, though, as siblings or parents or friends, waiting for the next lifetime perhaps to come back as true lovers again. And like a Russian Roulette, there suddenly will come a lifetime where two souls, longing to be lovers for many lifetimes, get to unite as true lovers. And when this miracle happens, there is so much palpable love around the couple. It is almost like their souls are jumping out of their physical bodies, and dancing with mad abandon around their “physical body packaging” – the glow, the aura of such couples in love. The souls entangled in inseparable “strings”.

2.       2. Teeny Crush Love: We have all been through that phase. Just into our teens, or nowadays a bit earlier than that, we experience the surge of hormones in our body and brain that makes the world look in two different parts. One part is the grey and black part where we resent the controls, rebel against parents, hate the constant nagging of our teachers; and the other part is the rainbow coloured world where the girl next door, or in the school bus, or in the row behind in the classroom, looks like a fairy or at least a younger version of the latest Bollywood heartthrob. It is often the phase where we create our memories of “first love”. This is indeed nearest to a “no strings” love. You just feel it deep inside you. You like the presence of the loved one. You climb to the top of the terrace and wait for hours to watch a glimpse of her passing by. The tingle in the heart is enough reward – no other expectations!


3.    3.  Rebound Love: This is dangerous love. You have just come out of a relationship, your heart is broken, you are seeking for a warm hug and some loving words, and somewhere deep down in the well of ego, there is a whisper, “Find another one quickly, and show it to…”. There are definite “strings” attached here – of the past. And these strings will definitely complicate the future. Comparisons are inevitable. Holding your new loved one as a “trophy” is often tempting, especially when there is a breeze from the past. Exploitation of the vulnerable partner is likely. Guilt and remorse are the emotions that occupy the heart in place of the true joyous vibrations of love. This form of love does not last long too. And then breaks another heart. And the vicious cycle of rebound love can continue dangerously. Having said all this, I also agree that if this love helps you cope with the break-up, serves as a temporary balm and medicine for your soul, then maybe it is not that bad. Just make sure the end blow is served graciously to the gullible partner.

4.      4.  Office Love: When we spend more than 50 hours of our life every week with someone at office, then a bond and attraction is natural. The energy of love formula has a strong correlation with the variable of physical proximity. And laws of physics cannot be denied, or resisted. There might be HR policies, and CCTVs, and the prying eyes of co-workers, but love can hoodwink them all. A casual walk to the pantry area, standing next to each other, and some soft whispers, are enough to keep the love ignited. The slight touch of skin while handing over the documents, the whiff of her silken hair as you explain the spreadsheet bending slightly over her shoulders, the quick wink of the eyes in the meeting room when the boss is making a presentation – how can they all not be powerful ingredients to fuel the easily satiable energy of love! There is an added thrill of trying to keep the affair under a wrap, and an added comfort that the partner is a working person should they take the relationship forward, and last but not the least, an added motivation to come every Monday morning and face the humdrum work at office. This is good love, in the busy times we live in, as long as it is not infidelity! A few delicate “strings” to be handled here but if it is true love, then all the strings align beautifully to create a beautiful long term relationship.

5.   5. Matured Age Love: This is one dimension of love that has not touched the lives of a general person in India. There are too many “strings” of the society attached I guess. But if an old unmarried man or woman, or someone who has been divorced or lost a partner tragically, want to share love and time together in old age, then why should the society object? Our society is anyways deteriorating the old age value system of taking care of the old aged. So why can we not let some of our elderly couples take care of each other. Physically and emotionally. Or do we want to banish the elders into a forced life of solitude and penance, and with emotions reserved only for the grandchildren. Those grandchildren who are anyways too busy with their own gadgets! What can be more lovely than seeing an old couple, walking hand in hand in the park, or sharing spiced sweet potatoes while sitting in a bench in the park. Morning shows in the theatres are meant for the elderly couples who usually wake up much earlier than the rest of us lazy ones, and would love to spend a few hours in the movie hall with a vicarious feeling of their past youth while they see the actors dancing around the trees. Why deny any of them the opportunity to sit next to a loved one, married or not, and share a basket of popcorn together. Love transcends all boundaries, and age is one of the easiest.


6.   6.  Lustful Love: The chicken and egg problem is very similar to the lust and love problem. Which comes first. Lust or Love. Can you have love without the feeling of lust for your partner? Probably not. As much as the purists might disagree. But the reverse is possible, on a sub-conscious level, at least. You might feel you are in love with someone, but in reality, it might just be a lustful attraction. The body deceives the heart into thinking it is love in order to fulfil its own needs. The lustful love energy will usually explore the outer packaging but never reach the gift inside the package. The gift of the soul. But before we scorn such a love, let us not forget the “strings” attached to our DNA from the past. We were meant to procreate, and not necessarily love, while we lived in the dangerous caves of prehistoric times. That feeling still remains somewhere within us. We seek what is attractive, and then we want to spread our genes. We are dictated by the orders written in our DNA. If the mind and soul are not strong enough to defy the orders from the ruthless DNA master, then lust will prevail over love.



7.   7. Flirty Love: Flirting is a widely misunderstood word in my view. It is one of the purest forms of love. Temporary love with no “strings” attached. Just the pleasure of making the other person happy, being wanted. I am sure even Gods flirt with each other. It is the ultimate combination of body, mind, and heart all working together in a harmless game where no one emerges a winner or loser. Both sides are aware that there are no manipulations or end goals. The focus is on the present. Living life and enjoying it at the present moment. What our wise old men and sages, and modern day gurus all insist upon. It is also a healthy panacea for married people wanting some fun, some temporary sparks in their lives. The same spark that helps them go back to their own homes, and reignite the long term love with their respective partners. Yes, when flirting is misunderstood or is done with a nefarious intent, then it can be dangerous. But that is true for any activity – if it is not done properly or understood properly, then it can obviously be harmful!



8.    8.Platonic Love: In this age of “Friends with Benefits”, it is hard to comprehend the concept of an emotional and spiritual relationship with no sexual “strings” attached. This hard to grasp concept is often known as Platonic Love. Sometimes I feel that when you know there is no possibility of a sexual rendezvous in the relationship for various reasons, then the mind by default conditions and comforts the heart into acceptance of a platonic relationship! However, it is also true, that there are many people of the opposite sex that you want to spend time with, just talk to, laugh with, have fun with and still not have a strong sexual urge for the person. You might look into the eyes of the other person for several minutes, and maybe peep into each other’s souls also, but with no urgency of hitting the sack together. Maybe the souls do not need a sexual relationship (hard to imagine anyways how they would copulate), and some people are just content in having this “soulful, spiritual” relationship. It is also a good cover often for many others forms of love covered in this article (like Teeny Crush Love or Flirty Love or Taboo Love covered later below), and society has a far greater acceptance of any relationship under the umbrella of “Platonic Love”. It somehow echoes the love between angels and deities, and people prefer to not mess with such godly feelings!



9.    9. Married Love: Most of the couples in our past generations, and many in the present generation also, get married on the basis of horoscopes, the zeal and vested interests of mutual family networks and overenthusiastic aunties, and the commercially “charitable” efforts of online or offline brokers. Love is a derivative of such marriages, generally much lower down in the order. The day to day needs of making the marriage work, the family work are enough to throttle the pipe carrying the fuel of love. But not always. The solemn vows of marriage, the mutual interdependence, the common ownership of future offspring can lay a strong foundation upon which the pillars of love can be built. Love potion which has the mutual feelings of care, respect and protection as the added ingredients. The small everyday things - a peck on the cheek in the morning when you wake up, sipping the morning tea or lemon water together, helping each other in yoga, the relay race of the maid putting the lunch in the tiffin box and handing over to one partner who then rushes to hand over to the other partner standing near the elevator, the gentle touch of putting the toilet seats properly and the towels neatly folded in the racks and not sprawled on the beds, getting the partner’s favourite ice cream from the market on a rainy day or preparing home-made favourite pudding of spouse on a chilly winter day – all of these add the multifarious “strings” of friendship, affection, care which together build the strong rope of married love.


10.Taboo Love:Love can be dangerous fun, if it falls in the realms of taboo love. A genuine love crush on a cousin or a young uncle or auntie, or love with a same sex partner, or love with a much younger or older person (otherwise fit to be a grandchild or a grandparent!), or love with a best friend’s or neighbour’s spouse – all of these would classify under so called taboo love. Taboo sometimes by society, sometimes by law, sometimes by family, and sometimes by self-conscience. But the adrenaline rush of doing something that is prohibited together with the emotions of love can provide a very slippery lubricant on the stretched “strings” of dangerous attraction. When God created love, she did not make rules of who can love or not love each other. If love happens, it was meant to happen. If it is natural it can happen, and if it is not natural, then nature will not allow it to happen. Society, families, and law should not interfere with nature’s call. There are far many other taboos and ills of society that one can focus upon than to cast an evil disapproving eye on love between two human beings. Yes, sometimes it can hurt and even destroy other people and families affected, and that is despicable. However, nature has its own rules, and if the positive force of love is stronger than the negative force of impact on affected others, then nature will conspire to find its own solution.


   11.  One Sided Love: Love need not always be reciprocated. True love is, after all, with no “strings” attached. There is no condition that the other person has to reciprocate the love. However, there should be some attempt to convey the feeling of love to the other, once or maybe more than once. Not doing even once is not fair to love itself, and will also result in a repressed feeling for rest of the life, which is not fair to the other “loves” in future life. At same time, conveying one-sided love too many times, is bordering on stalking and harassment. But after sharing of one’s feelings, one has every right to love the non-physical part of the person he or she is in love with – with an image in the heart, with an imagination in the mind. The energy of love is supposed to make us happy, and if the harbouring of such one-sided love makes us happy, then the laws of love are well met. Body and mind have their own unique ways of carrying emotional vibrations across long distances in the forms of “waves or strings”, and the recipient of such waves always benefits from the additional energy received. And that is indeed true love, isn’t it, with no “strings” attached, and wishing better for the loved one even it means sacrificing one’s own interests?

So go ahead, and enjoy all the dimensions of love, in this lifetime and the many future lifetimes!


5 comments:

Sandeep Vishnoi

Excellent and mind blowing..!

Unknown

Super Duper. 11 Dimensions and 11 types of love and all beautifully explained.

Unknown

Super Duper. 11 Dimensions and 11 types of love and all beautifully explained.

Rituranjan

I like it...wouldn't it be interesting Dhiraj if there is a book with characters where all these dimensions are portrayed.

Rituranjan

I like it...wouldn't it be interesting Dhiraj if there is a book with characters where all these dimensions are portrayed.

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